I taught a group today on "Codependency"--we discussed what it is and how to cope if you recognize the behaviors. Codependents Anonymous group says the patterns are denial, low self-esteem, compliance and control issues. Everyone wants to be needed but where do we draw the line and not "lose" ourselves in others? Especially as a Christian, I wrestle with the balancing act of serving others and paying attention to my own needs and goals. I think that "self-ish" means centered on the "self"--either too much or too little. The poem a co-worker shared with me really helped sort this out for me. Here it is:
We are all born little.
And of a specific man and woman.
Between birth and today,
Everyone has accumulated vast experience
Which we know as the past.
In a way, all things you have done up to the present,
If you are still around,
The question again is,
What is the price
Could the price be lower...
Stuff to chew on...
Speaking of Snoopy...Thom saw this at CVS today for $15! ;-)